“And complete the Hajj and ‘umrah for Allah . But if you are prevented, then [offer] what can be obtained with ease of sacrificial animals. And do not shave your heads until the sacrificial animal has reached its place of slaughter. And whoever among you is ill or has an ailment of the head [making shaving necessary must offer] a ransom of fasting [three days] or charity or sacrifice. And when you are secure, then whoever performs ‘umrah [during the Hajj months] followed by Hajj [offers] what can be obtained with ease of sacrificial animals. And whoever cannot find [or afford such an animal] – then a fast of three days during Hajj and of seven when you have returned [home]. Those are ten complete [days]. This is for those whose family is not in the area of al-Masjid al-Haram. And fear Allah and know that Allah is severe in penalty.” (Al-Baqarah 2/196)
For those not familiar, Eid al-Adha commemorates the day when prophet Abraham was going to sacrifice his son but was instructed by God to offer an animal instead. Eid al-Adha in Arabic literally means “festival of the sacrifice” – alJazera
My first Qurban experience! I can’t believe after 29 years of living, finally I am witnessing what happens during the sacrifice, which is a LOT of work and emotions (me, being a lady and seeing the blood and all). I had to witness it because my mother-in-law insists it is sunnah for the person making the Qurban to see the blood flow of the animal. Not sure how sahih that is, but I have come across online about Rasulullah (SAW) saying to his daughter Fatimah (AS) about seeing the drops of blood of the sacrifice. Please enlighten me if you know more about this.
Anyhoo, the norm is that the ladies in the Muslim community do not partake in the exercise of the sacrifice. The ladies will be at the section in the mosque that will help with the cooking of the sacrifice so that two things can run concurrently and we can wrap up the whole event by late noon-ish, which we usually do. Growing up, I would sometimes help out with the cooking part back in my Grandma’s place in Peringgit, Melaka. For the times we didn’t make it back to my Grandma’s place for Eidul Adha, you bet I was just celebrating it as the usual Eidul Fitr celebration.
However, now that I am older and have more understanding about life, I realized Eidul Adha is not as glim and glam like Eidul Fitr is. It’s about sacrifice, giving and realizing how blessed we actually are and reflecting on how much we show our gratitude towards our giver, Allah; for all that we have. It’s also about understanding the sacrifices you make in forms of physically, mentally and materialistically , all that including the sacrifices no one can see, will be replaced by Allah, if not in this world, then in the after-world.
One of my aunt had the pleasure and rizq of performing Hajj pilgrimage this year, and performing the pilgrimage is not something for the faint hearted. It’s like going to war, with yourself mostly, mentally and physically, because the challenges you face in Mecca is everything out of your comfort zone, and the challenge to bring yourself as close as you can to our Creator. With the struggle that the Hajj pilgrims go through during Eidul Adha, you bet it’s no glim and glam compared to us lot back in our home countries, celebrating.
With my first sacrifice I had the rizq of contributing to today, I realized that I didn’t know a lot about the steps and sunnah on making your sacrifice! I know there are criterias for the animal, but not the checklist for the person intending to Qurban. How un-attentive of me. If you are making your first Qurban, you make sure you read the following:
It is Mustahabb (and not necessary) for the one making the Qurban to refrain from cutting hair or clipping nails until the animal has been slaughtered
بسم اللہ الرحمن الرحیم
Bismillaahi wallaahu ‘Akbar [Allaahumma minka wa laka] Allaahumma taqabbal minnee.
In the Name of Allah, Allah is the Greatest! [Oh Allah, from You and to You.] Oh Allah, accept it from me.
On a fashion note, because this is my first time seeing the works carried out for this ritual, and the fact I was wearing an abaya, which I find unsuited for the conditions of the ritual, I couldn’t help but think of what would be an appropriate but stylish outfit for the event. After trying to go through my fashion files, I would think a dress that is three-quarter paired with a legging/pants would be great for this occasion.
Photo from Nabiila Bee’s Instagram
I hope this Eidul Adha brings you and your happiness joy and gratefulness. May Allah accept all our deeds, may our lives be filled with Barakah and forgiveness, and may we be amongst the ones chosen to die as a believer. And may we live long to experience many more Eidul Adha in the future, Ameen.